ABANDONMENT

When you've grown up with physical or emotional abandonment, your nervous system learns that that feeling you get is 'normal.' And as a result, you continue to create that feeling for yourself.

So, for example, no matter how much someone loves you, if you only know the feeling of abandonment, you'll block that feeling and likely create abandonment.

Abandonment doesn't just need to come from others; it can also come from yourself.

Your lover could be deeply committed to you, but if you're:-

🍄unable to stick to your own word

🍄don't validate your needs

🍄shove down your emotions

....then you're abandoning yourself.

Especially if you're often blaming your partner or projecting onto them, it's vital that you can identify when you're actually abandoning yourself rather than them abandoning you.

For example, when you say 'yes' but really mean 'no,' the resentment that you are harboring towards them is the result of you abandoning yourself.

Additionally, when you have grown up in a childhood where all you wanted was to feel chosen by your parents, you will often spend many adult years trying to prove to yourself that you can change someone or 'fix' them to make you finally feel loved.

The harsh truth is that you keep yourself on the hamster wheel of being let down and abandoned because they rarely ever change for you, or if they do, you're so worried about them reverting back and then hating yourself for not leaving earlier.

Here are the 3 things to know:

You may be blaming the other person when you haven't even looked at your part in the situation.

If you are the 'fixer' when it comes to relationships or always wanting to 'keep the peace,' you're more likely to put other people's experiences above your own.

Two realities can co-exist at one time. The other person can be valid in what they're sharing and expressing, and you don't need to be the victim. You can hold their reality while simultaneously not abandoning your needs and experience.

The bottom line is…. when you learn to be committed to YOURSELF, to give yourself your own needs, and not to be co - dependency on someone else to give you a sense of safety, you regain your power.

🌟THIS IS UNCONDITIONAL SELF - LOVE TO YOURSELF and this is a deep SELF - CARE TO YOURSELF ABD YOUR BEING.🌟

🐝 By reading this, your self care and self love chamber has been activated. 🐝

CONTEMPLATING:

Identify how you abandon yourself and re-create that feeling?